Some thoughts about the upcoming Halloween holiday this week could turn us toward the effect of your attire - and costumes in particular, on your attractiveness to men, and what their costumes say about them. The courtship process I lay out at live trainings and courses, as well as in the full dating, attraction and relationship system of the Seventh Sense Program offers no less than nine ways in which your costume can attract - and ways that those of men can reveal back to you everything you need to know.The Seventh Sense is at: www.womenshappiness.com/seventh-sense
Let's cut to the chase so that get out and get that costume! (As well as reading those of men...)
Keep it simple. Overdoing it in the area of creativity or humor is not the way to go. Some of the polls regarding the drivers of men's and women's fantasy lives suggest that men are primarily driven by the VISUAL. Which is to say that the humor and wit demonstrated by dressing as a box of particular products can be entirely lost on men if it completely conceals your figure or worse - your wonderful facial features. Men are empassioned by the visual suggestiveness of a French Maid costume or a Naughty Librarian than a funny werewolf or vampire costume you adore - smattered with corn syrup "blood."
Most of the guys I've seen out there wearing giant boxes, or foam padding, and bushy hair all over their faces - they may try to be funny or innovative, or even cute, but it is just not attractive to you either. What I think happens in this situation is that the guy is thinking about what's funny or interesting to HIM, or to his buddies. In other words, to MEN, not WOMEN. The same rule applies in reverse, and if you pick up on a guy who's "trying too hard" with his costume, it may be revealing to you that in dating, he may treat you more like a guy than a lady.
To attract the opposite gender, we need to know how they think, and have an attitude of giving and appreciation for what they need - not what we think they SHOULD want.
Another general rule that makes sense for both men and women is to select costumes that offer some sort of interactivity, or at least a feature that begs the question, "Who are you supposed to be?"
I knew a guy who missed the mark on the attractiveness of the costume, but got the interactivity just right. Before Facebook became today's Facebook, he dressed as a Facebook page, complete with a markerboard and marker for women to "post to his wall."
One of the funniest costumes I've seen was a man with a fake head aiming toward his real back, but his own face popping out from what looked like a baby-backpack. The women thought it was darling, and they laughed themselves silly in entertainment, but guess what? He didn't get a single number or date out of it. He was just several minutes of entertainment.
When you see a guy whose costume plays up his best features, but adds a special, mystery element - an unusual accessory like an antique ring, an old book, some costume spectacles for character - he is displaying both a gift for the enigmatic and also the discriminating refinements of a man with great BOUNDARIES.
And guess what great boundaries mean?
They mean a guy who can truly commit - honest, communicative, collaborative, and able to compromise.
If you own the Seventh Sense Program at www.womenshappiness.com/seventh-sense, then you know that the very first step of sexual attraction for men is to be MYSTERIOUS. To cause you to be inspired to ask questions about what makes him tick. You also know that for women, any sexual attraction occurring must also be in a spirit of safety and friendliness (which also promotes a feeling of safety and security that's bona fide and honest.)
Finally, you know that beyond the obvious - the visual aspect of beauty - men need to know that you are interactive, open and accepting. So your costume having an interactivity of its own gives him a chance to approach you without shame (he has a reason), and if you like, making the first move of your own.
Rather than going to extreme lengths to be an entertainer, why not wear that gown, but add something compelling to it - one object, or extra item, a wand, an unexpected antique, something from the world of pop psychology - which is enough to be inviting, to be the perfect companion or teammate that makes a man feel like a man (rank among other men is a masculine instinctual need), that allows him to say the first words to you, knowing that doing so offers a chance to feel good about himself. And they will be words that reveal his curiosity about you, the interesting stranger on Halloween.
I'll simply be carrying around an Academy Awards statuette.
Who am I? Isn't it obvious?...
Maybe not. And that's the point.
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