It's A Powerful Tool For Success: Conditional Acceptance
Let's face it, Love, acceptance, and approval are the most powerful tools of reinforcing a human being can experience. When an individual has an attitude of partial approval or partial acceptance of others, an attitude of conditional acceptance develops. Statements such as, “I'll accept you when…,” create hurt, anger, fear, and distrust. When you attach unreasonable conditions within a relationship, your opportunities for accomplishment and enjoyment diminish. An attitude of conditional acceptance creates resistance to healthy interactions.
As you visit a restaurant and order a full-course dinner are you satisfied with a partial meal when you ordered a complete dinner? Of course not. Settling for being partially accepted as a person is not enough because it doesn't provide enough emotional and physical nourishment. Conditional acceptance hinders your self-respect and creates resistance toward growth and change. If I allow myself to be partially accepted as a person, or accept others only on a conditional basis, this reduces the trust and comfort needed to achieve fulfilling relationships.
Shun placing a limit on the amount of love and energy you give or receive. You don't have to settle for being accepted as a partial person. How often have you heard the statement, “She/he has a great body?” Don't let anyone reduce you to a bunch of parts - hair, nails, skin, arms, or legs. What about the person's other qualities, such as being competent, cooperative, conscientious, genuine, honest, faithful, forgiving, judicious, noble, persistent, sensitive, spirited, straight-forward, well-adjusted, thoughtful - to only mention a few? When you're not appreciated as a whole human being, you become discouraged and your self esteem and self-esteem wanes.
Begin confirming yourself as a total physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual person. Start behaving and believing that you are unique, a “crown of creation.” When you expect more of yourself you'll get more! When you communicate through a negative self-image your message lacks confidence and determination. Conditional acceptance breeds mistrust, fear, and rejection. This condition also creates damaging self-talk, decreasing self esteem and producing non-harmonious interactions.
Melting resistance is difficult when one is discouraged and demotivated. Taking risks is not a high priority for the person who experiences conditional acceptance. When the person is disheartened and discouraged they may say, “Why trouble myself with anything? With my luck I was bound to fail. I'm not getting anywhere.” These statements are signs of frustration and hopelessness. Conditional acceptance creates discouragement and resistance toward change and growth. Unconditional acceptance creates encouragement, warmth, and understanding in relationships. Resistance to growth is eliminated when one is unconditionally accepted.
Let's face it, Love, acceptance, and approval are the most powerful tools of reinforcing a human being can experience. When an individual has an attitude of partial approval or partial acceptance of others, an attitude of conditional acceptance develops. Statements such as, “I'll accept you when…,” create hurt, anger, fear, and distrust. When you attach unreasonable conditions within a relationship, your opportunities for accomplishment and enjoyment diminish. An attitude of conditional acceptance creates resistance to healthy interactions.
As you visit a restaurant and order a full-course dinner are you satisfied with a partial meal when you ordered a complete dinner? Of course not. Settling for being partially accepted as a person is not enough because it doesn't provide enough emotional and physical nourishment. Conditional acceptance hinders your self-respect and creates resistance toward growth and change. If I allow myself to be partially accepted as a person, or accept others only on a conditional basis, this reduces the trust and comfort needed to achieve fulfilling relationships.
Shun placing a limit on the amount of love and energy you give or receive. You don't have to settle for being accepted as a partial person. How often have you heard the statement, “She/he has a great body?” Don't let anyone reduce you to a bunch of parts - hair, nails, skin, arms, or legs. What about the person's other qualities, such as being competent, cooperative, conscientious, genuine, honest, faithful, forgiving, judicious, noble, persistent, sensitive, spirited, straight-forward, well-adjusted, thoughtful - to only mention a few? When you're not appreciated as a whole human being, you become discouraged and your self esteem and self-esteem wanes.
Begin confirming yourself as a total physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual person. Start behaving and believing that you are unique, a “crown of creation.” When you expect more of yourself you'll get more! When you communicate through a negative self-image your message lacks confidence and determination. Conditional acceptance breeds mistrust, fear, and rejection. This condition also creates damaging self-talk, decreasing self esteem and producing non-harmonious interactions.
Melting resistance is difficult when one is discouraged and demotivated. Taking risks is not a high priority for the person who experiences conditional acceptance. When the person is disheartened and discouraged they may say, “Why trouble myself with anything? With my luck I was bound to fail. I'm not getting anywhere.” These statements are signs of frustration and hopelessness. Conditional acceptance creates discouragement and resistance toward change and growth. Unconditional acceptance creates encouragement, warmth, and understanding in relationships. Resistance to growth is eliminated when one is unconditionally accepted.
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