Eye-Contact Secrets
Where do you look when you are talking to a girl? Where do you think you should be looking? Does it matter where your eyes are? Believe me, if you want to be great with chicks, you need to have excellent eye contact…
Importance of eye-contact
Ok, so if eye contact is so important, what are some of the practical things you can do to enhance it and ensure that you are doing it correctly? Firstly, understand that a woman assesses you immediately. As the old saying goes, you never get a second chance to make a first impression.It’s true, so it’s very important to carry yourself and present yourself optimally all the time, and your eye contact or lack thereof will tell her volumes about you. Like it or not, she will judge you on the way you walk and approach her, on the way you stand when you arrive and when you talk to her and, even more importantly, the way you look at her.
She will immediately attempt to ascertain every facet of your personality from your appearance, your posture and the way you move. In fact, within 30 seconds a woman will pretty much feel that she has a handle on your past, present and future, all from her first impression. That’s how important it is. And a huge part of this first impression is the ease in which you, the seducer, look into her eyes.
A great example of eye-contact
For a great example of excellent eye contact, watch Mickey Roark in the movie “Nine and a Half Weeks”. When he first encounters Kim Bassinger, she’s shopping for scarves looking down at a table. He approaches from the side and he says something to her and when she looks up at him he looks DIRECTLY into her eyes.
It’s great eye contact that he gives her. But further, (and this separates the great seducers from the average guy) when she’s looking at this guy thinking who is this guy, and she attempts to look back down the table, he follows her eyes. He stays locked on, and actually moves his head to keep giving her eye contact. It’s very seductive and very subtle. He wasn’t glaring at her but maintained a nice easy eye contact. It’s a great example, so rent the movie and see what I mean.
Three types of eye contact
So here’s a little bit about eye contact. Just so that you know.With strangers (unknown males): When we are introduced to another person, like another guy for example, we tend to shift our eyes around without really giving good eye contact at all. In other words, we just casually greet person with a “Hi, how are you” or something and look around the room and then glance back at him and vaguely give him eye contact. That’s generally how you do an eye contact.
During interviews and presentations: Then there are situations in which we concentrate on maintaining eye contact. At a job interview, for instance, when we are trying really hard to maintain eye contact and we kind of shift our gaze from eye to eye, back and forth, and keep looking from one interviewer to the other. This is disinterested, polite eye contact. We are trying hard to maintain eye contact but we aren’t really feeling connected with that person in any way. So that’s another way we do an eye contact.
With friends and acquaintances: When we are having a heart to heart conversation with a friend, we tend to expand that eye to eye range to include the nose and the mouth, kind of like a triangle. So we look at both eyes then look at the nose and then the mouth. And this is the kind of eye contact we do when we are among friends and acquaintances.
How to use your eyes to seduce girls
Then, when we encounter a girl we like, and we are being a flirt, we do something different. We tend to expand our gaze to include more of the face and even parts of their body but we always return back to the eyes. And if we warm up to each other and feel that there is somewhat of a connection and a little bit of chemistry, you will notice and she too will notice that how the two of you start to gaze more intently into each other’s eyes.Reading into eye contact
Another thing that we do when we start feeling attracted to somebody is that we tend to watch their lips a lot when they are talking, more than we would watch, let’s say, the lips of our boss. So we essentially take in a bit but we always go back to the eyes and watch the mouth. So here’s something you can do practically. If you notice she is watching you and looking at your mouth as you speak, that can be a very good sign. She might be wondering what it would be like to kiss you. So if you too consciously do the same, you will be able to draw out the girl, making her feeling attracted to you, in spite of herself.The size of her pupils: If there is a one sign that’s impossible to fake, if you want to really find out if a particular girl is interested in you, is her pupil size. Invariably, the more she finds you attractive and the greater the degree of chemistry, the larger her pupils or yours will become. You just can’t fake it. So if you see her across the table, in a restaurant on a date and her pupil size is very large, you can be sure that she’s very interested in what you have to say and very attracted to you. Another thing is her blink rate. Her blink rate will tend to go up somewhat, so you could artificially increase your blink rate to make her more likely to reciprocate, to get that kind of attraction starting to roll.
The next time you are on a date, calibrate her level of attraction to you by where she’s is looking, how fast she’s blinking and the size of her pupils. So hopefully if you have given off the right eye contact signals, she will come across as love struck.
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